I sat in a baby massage class with some other new mums just weeks after I’d had my first baby … chatting all things baby and the subject turned to birth … and it seemed to become a bit of a badge of honour to have had the ‘worst birth’ … it really hit me, there wasn’t one positive birth story, not one. This saddened and angered me…what was going on that these women were left feeling like this after birth?
My first birth was a pretty positive experience…yeah my husband and I were naive to the fact that we had the choices we did have and didn’t have to just be directed by the midwives that were looking after us … but thankfully we had a lovely midwife who was just the right mix of nurturing and no nonsense ‘bloody get on with it’…which was what I needed really! I’d laboured at home using techniques I learnt from my wonderful The Daisy Foundation:Towcester, Brackley, Buckingham & Milton Keynes sessions and by the time I felt it was time to go to the hospital, I was already 6cm dilated (lots of ‘rotate to dilate’!)… although they didn’t believe me cos I was pretty chill about the whole thing 😎😂
So that was pretty cool..but it was when I got pregnant again when my little girl was 9 months old that I got seriously scared. I was scared I couldn’t do it again, I was scared I would get really sick again (I did… but hey 😫) and the process of bringing another human into the world filled me so much anxiety!
I knew I needed to do something about it, so I researched 😝 and found hypnobirthing. Not something I’d come across before but I was intrigued so I signed up!
It was one of the best things I could have done! I learnt about the mind/body connection during labour and birth, I learnt how to work with my body and baby, I was supported in my choices and knew how to find out what my rights were and ensure I was listened to, but also prepared myself to handle any twists and turns that might come my way… and they did 😊
It gave me the confidence to stand by our decision to have a homebirth and to make it happen even when we were told that there were no midwives to come out to us…I think Andy’s words were ‘your staffing issues aren’t our problem and I’m sure you’d rather there was someone here with us…’
It most definitely was a positive experience and the midwives couldn’t believe how calm I was … and how much they enjoyed being there!
I was hooked after this… becoming a bit of a birth junkie 😂… the wonders of the human body fascinate me and my research into the benefits of home birth sparked my enthusiasm for finding out as much as I could. I remember one of my Mummy friends at the time said ‘yeah, that’ll pass, you’re only in that phase, that’s why you’re interested’…fair enough, but 4 1/2 years on, I’m deffo out of that phase and I’m still finding everything about birth fascinating! The more I understood about our rights in birth, the importance of continuity of care and ensuring a woman centred approach..the more I knew that birth could be a positive experience.
It really hit me like a tonne of bricks…birth didn’t have to be perfect, there are so many variables to perfect anyway, it just needed to be an experience that left people feeling strong, empowered, powerful and like a mother fu*king birthing goddess…not scared, angry, full of fear and feeling like a failure. We were being failed left, right and centre and I couldn’t get my head round it and if I heard the phrase ‘I wasn’t allowed…’ one more time, I think I would have screamed!
Then…I found myself at a career crossroads during my maternity leave 😏 and I couldn’t stop thinking about birth, supporting people in their birth choices, aiding them to find out all the information they required and ensuring they could access the care that they bloody deserved! I also wanted to work for myself! So, I retrained in hypnobirthing and haven’t stop training since 😂 Continuing professional development is so important to me and I love to add to my knowledge and services!
So that’s how Mini Miracles was born … ✨
I could go on and on…but I won’t!
If you’re interested in finding out more though…get in touch for a cuppa ☕️